My fiance and I have a sexual problem. In the first 6 months of our relationship we both had intrest in sex, but I found within that 6 months (we are now going on a year) I loved her more and more, we couldn't afford birthcontrol and I developed an extreme fear of her becoming pregnant (and even condoms gave me worry), soon I could not connect loving her with sex, just sex and her becomming pregnant. This presented our problem, she can connect love with sex (as in sex being a normal part of loving someone), but I fail to see that connection (she does have birthcontrol now). It seems to me that love and sex have nothing to do with each other? This is hurting us both please help.
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