Sudden Separation After Loss of Father Sun, Aug 23rd 2009
My husband suddenly left and went to his mothers 9 months after his father died of cancer. He was very upset about his father and angry with me, but had kept both hidden until he left. Then my father died days later, but he never came home. My husband was left by both his father and mother as a young child and was brought up by his grandmother. As an adult he became close again with his father only to lose him again after a year of cancer. He is unable to talk, isolating himself from friends and famlly, but able to keep his routine of work, exercise and seeing our children. We see and talk to each other a lot because of the children (I think), though he resists conversations about emotions. He did come back 5 months later but left again after a few weeks. He is still unhappy, can't move forward or do the things he said he was missing out on. He rarely goes out and often drinks alcohol. Is this a mid-life crisis or extreme grief. Will things get better? What can i do?
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