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Hi, I'm wondering if holding a partner's throat while having sex could be a sign of need for dominance or control . My partner would wrap his hand around my neck if I was on top, and since he didn't squeeze or do something to alarm me, I tolerated it. I do wonder, however, if this is a sign of control issues. On the other hand, it seems there are all sorts of "tips" about what women like or not like in bed, including slapping, biting, etc... and I wonder if holding someone's throat is part of that repertoire of "things to do". Thanks! 

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