My wife and I have been together for 14 years and married for 10 years. We have 2 beautiful children. Over the past 3 years we've seemed to grow apart and I've hurt her emotionally but not intentionally or knowingly. She just confided in me that she is wondering if she is gay. She said that long before us when she was in high school she had feelings for another girl but never acted on them. She dated guys and then we met and have had a great marriage. Neither of us have ever had an affair with another person. She's been going to counseling and besides her counselor I'm the only person that knows. What could've happened? She says she is still in love with me and wants me but doesn't understand why she is having these thoughts. I'm trying to be supportive to her and regardless of what happens I intend to stand by her side through this. I've also begun counseling in order to work on my issue that hurt her in the past unknowingly. Could you help me with this?
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