We've been married 14 years, two kids. My wife thinks I have a sexual disorder, since I desire sex more than she does. (I'd be happy with two or three times a week.) She tells me everything in my mind revolves around sex, which I disagree with. She, on the other hand, refuses to discuss sex or other intimate matters with me in a constructive way. She just clams up, or tells me I'm screwed up. She'll sure chat it up with her girlfriend, though. She is also obsessed with the thought I'm having an affair, which I'm not. Her paranoia has caused me problems at work, and it's affecting our kids. I generally get no affection from her, since she claims any affection I give her is only driven by my sexual desire. Counseling hasn't helped, it's still all my fault when we get home. She never has a problem. She's driving me away. How can I stop where we're headed?
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