A wife writes: "Somehow, we have not yet had sexual intercourse"
I have been married for almost 11 months now - it is a love marriage and I love my husband very much. Likewise, for him. however, somehow, we have not yet had sexual intercourse. We have indulged in foreplay a few times and tried to have intercourse but i am paranoid about the pain, My dear husband refrains from doing it since he is scared it will hurt me. From my perspective, honestly, I just do not have the desire to have a sexual relationship - I seem to be happy with cuddling and hugs and kisses- why do we need more? My husband masturbates regularly but I am surprised, him being a man has not got me to do it for so long. I think the desire is low from both our sides and I am now beginning to get worried since we will want children sooner or later. I also used JY Jelly once which was helpful but somehow get nervous when he is about to enter - also, i have no clue as to how the big object will get into such a minute hole - i should mention that I feel no pleasure whatsoever when he touches me or indulges in foreplay. I do not understand - have I got over sex? I have never had sex in my life though was a little sexually active when I was younger. My husband and me are both 30 years old. Please advise. thanks.
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