Hello Doc, I don't know who else to talk to about this so here it goes. My last boyfriend said I was bad at giving oral sex. He said this to be mean after we broke up over a year ago. But now I have a new boyfriend. My problem is that during the last year I have tried oral sex on him and I get so nervous and so much anxiety that I would have to stop. Now, I am to the point where just the thought of trying it again couses almost a panic attack and anger. The more I try to say no big deal just try again, the more I try to deal with the problem, the worse the anxiety gets. It seems like now the anxiety is way out of proportion to the problem. What started out as a bit of nervousness is now out of control. It bothers me a lot because I want to feel to be me and I don't feel like this is me. What do you think?
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