"A Man's Perspective," Nick H. July 9, Men, Women, Marriage and Sex
Thu, Jul 10th 2008
I have just read your piece about women not wanting sex.....Well I'm on the receiving end of this as a man. However to add insult-to-injury I found out that my wife had been having an affair.
Before you jump to conclusions, the lack of sex has been going on for several years, but according to my wife (and I believe her) throughout the six months she was having her affair - she only had sex with the 3rd party twice. The affair has now ended and we are trying to rebuild our marriage (we've been together 14 years and married 6). The sex situation is still the same between us - in fact it's worse - non existent!! She wants all the comforting hugs and little kisses - but that is about as much as I get.
I was interested in reading some other peoples ideas why this happens, kids, stress, being taken for granted - but what about us men. I pay ALL the household bills, cook every meal, assist with the house cleaning etc etc. How do your thoughts work on this scenario - I'd be very interested to know.
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