I'm a 32 year old divorced professional male. I've been divorced for 18 months. My ex has remarried, and moved to another city. We share joint custody of a 5 year old son. I feel very comfortable with the divorce, the new husband and am happy that we are apart. I do miss the companionship of a marriage... The issue for me is that I am maintaining several sexual/casual relationships with several women. I have slept with approximately 15 women since the divorce and regularly have sexual relations with 3-4 women during the course of a month (I was absolutely faithful during the 10 year marriage). These women are friends of mine (no one night stands). They understand and accept that the I am dating/sleeping with other women. I have no real desire to have a serious relationship with any of them (I feel like I am still searching for the right type of girl). I feel no guilt or remorse or commitment as a result of the sex. I am rather selective and often refuse to sleep with people. I guess the question is whether I should be concerned about my relative ambivalence about the sexual relationships (also - I masturbate daily, at least). I feel a real desire to have a companion but haven't found her. I think the sex is a way to feel intimacy in the absence of a committed relationship.
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