My husband has a smoking fetish...I am a smoker and am completely okay and enjoy smoking for my husband..We have a very active sex life..however I'm not sure if me smoking for him is enough. I have found out that he is getting off on fetish sites whenever I am not around . the getting off part doesn't bother me but it does bother me that he needs to fullfill his fantasy with other women when I am right here. I have expressed my feelings to him on this issue but it hasn't changed anything. I do not feel this will go away ...any advice on how I can be okay with this? I don't want to be angry at him but I don't want to feel unwanted either.
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