Dr. Schwartz, I\'m having a rough time with my family. My mother is, without a doubt, emotionally/mentally abusive towards me and shows no signs whatsoever of stopping. She\'s been this way ever since I can remember, and she used to be physically abusive towards my father. My father, who I\'ve always considered my safe haven, has recently started to ignore me when I tell him about the things my mother has said to me. I\'ve been to a therapist and he\'s stated that 90% of my emotional problems/disorders stem from my mother\'s actions. People have always told me that it\'s \"no big deal\" or to \"just ignore the problem\" with my mother, but that doesn\'t work. I can\'t ignore her, she\'s my mother! But I have absolutely no appreciation for her at all, and sometimes I wish she would just disappear from my life forever. She refuses to get a job even though there are plenty out there and we really need the money. She doesn\'t even do any housework! What can I do to save both mine and my father\'s sanity?
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