I am struggling a great deal. I'm 21. I am female and watched videos online of other females. I've also watched heterosexual stuff too and I like both. I once was fantasizing and had a fantasy to do with a female friend. Ever since then I have been obessessing over what it means and if it means I actually want to be with a girl. It has given me much anxiety and I sometimes wake up with my heart beating so fast and I feel like I can't breathe. I even have tried to make myself just accept that maybe I'm a lesbian and it just makes me sad and want to cry and I get a lot of anxiety. Also, being around this friend, I now feel so uncomfortable about thoughts in my head that I tell myself it's because I really like her but I don't feel like I do. I even told my mom maybe I am gay. I thought that would help relieve the anxiety and it didn't. These thoughts never leave and I just want tp go out on a date with this nice guy but I'm afraid I'll always be thinking the thoughts and ruin everything.
I just need help, please
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