New Boyfriend Lying About Belongings That Are His Ex Girlfriend's
When my new boyfriend starts lying to cover-up his lingering feelings for his ex girlfriend and keeps her personal belongings in his home, is this appropriate or common? He has her purple suitcase still in his closet. He has stuffed animals and pictures she has left behind. He says that they are over but then tells me his sister gave or loaned him these things but his sister did not, I have asked her. He also has a romantic photo of a place where his ex and he went on vacation and keeps it framed in the living room. He said he took the picture and her name is on the back of the photo.
Perhaps these things are minor but they really do not feel good to me when I'm starting a new relationship. I have decided that it is best to not have intercourse and to start dating other guys because I do not feel he is ready. He also suffers from chronic depression so I do not find him very stable in his thinking. He changes on top of withholding the truth.
I do not believe these are good signs and may only get worse in time.
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