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A while ago my boyfriend was showing me some pictures on his computer when a picture of an ex-girlfriend came up. I told him I was uncomfortable with it being on there and we got into a fight. He said he would delete them. A few days later I found they were still on there and there were other photos of an ex-girlfriend. Another fight ensued. I knew I was wrong for looking. Since then I trusted he had deleted them and didn't think about it. A few months later I was visiting him while he was away at work. He left me his computer as I didn't have mine. I was saving a picture from the internet and when I tried to look for it I found a folder that wasn't there before.  I opened it up, thinking my photo was there only to find not only had he transferred the photos I had seen to this folder but hundreds of pictures and videos of ex-girlfriends, all naked and rather graphic. It was wrong to look but we've been dating for two years now and I don't see why they are there. I feel like I’m no competing against these women. He knew I was uncomfortable and not happy yet he kept them and more. I feel like these now mean more to him than I do.....

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