Just before I found out I was pregnant my boyfriend and I were going through an emotional rough patch. Since then, we have attributed it to my changing hormone levels. During that period we were not having sex, and since finding out I am pregnant I have been struggling with my sexual desires.
I should explain that my desires have always been somewhat depraved. I have never experienced sex as something romantic and natural, but dirty and lewd and shameful. I guess that's just the way I like it. The trouble is that, now that I'm pregnant I just can't allow myself to get into the mood like that.
It feels so wrong to me to have these disgusting thoughts in order to get myself off when there's an innocent child growing inside me. The result is that we've only had sex twice in nearly four months!
I'm desperate. How can I relearn how to do sex? I can't expect my fiancee to wait forever, and I don't want to either! Furthermore, we're getting married in a fortnight and I want our honeymoon to be what I always dreamed it would be and not ruined by my sexual dysfunction.
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