I adopted my husband's three children at an early age. I raised them and gave all I could as their adoptive mother. I never called them my adoptive children. I always referred to them as my own. My husband never corrected them or gave them love. It was always me.
I have suffered so much because my youngest adoptive daughter has made my life impossible. She has lied, talked about me and has made people believe that I am a terrible MOM. She has seen me cry and doesn't care. She talks back to me with no regrets. It has gotten to the point that I can't say nothing to her because, right away, she'll explode like a fire cracker and this has caused my health to degrade.
My oldest wasn't like that until the past three years and she has become heartless as well. My oldest who, I thought would be my closest, also moved out and doesn't care about me either.
I feel as if I gave my all for nothing. After I raised them and sacrificed myself for them, they have turned their backs on me and I don't understand why they are like that with me. No matter what I say or do it's never enough and now I don't know what to do.
They are older now, 21, 22, 24 years old. The sad thing is that they won't dis-respect their dad. But me? They don't care and I just have had it with them and I really would like to hate them but I can't. All I do is cry and suffer. I never had a mom to love me as I love them and it's sad to say I just don't know or understand the motive as to why they are like that, especially my oldest daughter. She couldn't care less if I were to die although she says she loves me. I can't see it in her at all.
They are cold and heartless and, what can I do? I need an advice please does anyone know or has had the same issues with their adoptive children? please let me know.
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