Hello, I am an educated 42 year old male who has never had an intimate relationship with anyone. I understand that we are genetically programmed to seek intimacy and procreate. My hormones are becoming a menace. I always think of the opposite sex which I know is normal. My main problem is that I am attracted to women that are NOT attracted to me. My chemistry is skewed toward younger, slim, intelligent women. I tried to engage such women in conversations, but they lack interest in an older man like myself unless they are gold diggers seeking money. I do not have chemistry for most women in my age group because I find that most of them are not physically attractive. My other problem is that I am active, I enjoy running, the gym, hiking, etc. I talked to obese women that find me attractive, but they cannot engage in the same activities that I enjoy. I am at a dilema. The only sex I ever had in my life thus far is masturbation. I have already done what most people have suggested. I have gone out, talked to people, tried bars, clubs, personals. I have tried it all with no success. I am very frustrated and I need some advice.
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