I have been with my boyfriend for over 5 years but three weeks ago he said he doesn't feel the same way about me anymore. This came after we had an argument which started because I felt he was no longer making an effort in the relationship.
I had annual leave so decided to go away for a week to give us both time. During the week we were in contact mainly via text only. On returning back to our flat he said he felt that he just wasn't happy anymore and that we have come to a dead end. I got very upset as did he. He said he wanted try and work on it but also says he doesn't like seeing me upset.
We have been getting along well during the last 2-3 weeks until we both went to his parent's house for the weekend but then I have been feeling him being distant again. He says that breaking up is a big decision and doesn't want to just make the decision just like that. I feel like I am in limbo and dislike feeling like I am being made to wait for a decision that he may or may not make in the next day, week or months. I don't want to break up with him but it doesn't feel like it is up to me anymore. I also feel under great pressure from my job as I am at risk of redundancy so I really feel lost.
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