I have been married for three years and I feel like my husband and I are growing apart. We don't spend very much time together as a couple or as a family. We have a two year old son, Landen. Every weekend I ask him if he wants to do this or that with Landen and I mostly get a "no," whether it is to go for a walk or the zoo or a festival. My husband would prefer to work in his garage or in his hobby room or go out with one of his own friends by himself. It is almost like we are roommates doing shift work parenting when I would actually like to do something together. When we do something together it almost seems like he is doing me a big favour. And spending time just the two of us, well, maybe once every few months. Sometimes he comes home from work and just goes to bed without interacting at all with Landen. I understand that work can be tiring and stressful sometimes but Landen doesn't really understand why his father is shutting him out. I have brought up the topic with him but he doesn't have much of a response. He does tell me that he loves me but it doesn't really feel like it. What to do?
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