Possible Bi-Sexual HusbandTue, Dec 25th 2001
I have been married for 17 years. The marriage has been good at times and really bad at others. My husband is often moody and depressed and often hostile for reasons that I can not understand. He is not affectionate towards me and does not want spend a lot of time with me. Several years ago a man entered his life, whom he identified as a cousin. At this time my husband spent all of his time with "the cousin" and "the cousin" would often call our home several times a day looking for my husband. My husband became severely distance blaming me for everything that was wrong in his life. He cursed me refused to come home and neglected his children. I went through many months of this with him and I confronted him. I asked him if he was having an affair with the male cousin and he denied it. He insisted that I was the cause of his behavior and he did not want anything to do with me. The relationship ended or at least the cousin stopped calling and we went on with our marriage. The problem now is that I still believe that my husband had an affair with the male cousin. I feel that he is bi-sexual and this is the reason that he cannot be affectionate or romantic towards me. Should I continue with this marriage? Should I confront him again? how do I get my husband to be more affectionate. He does not even want to celebrate our wedding Anniversary each year. It appears to be such a turn-off for him.
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